Yesterday marks the beginning of Venus Retrograde until April, 15th 2017. It’s also the date when my ex is getting married. Uh oh.
Ever since I saw his invitation, I could only think of one thing: What will happen if someone gets married on Venus Retrograde? I’m sure it’s not going to be the main thing that determines the course of their marriage, but I hope everything is going to work between them. I love my ex like a brother, so I wish he gets the happy ending that he deserves.
It is when I start to freak out.
What will it mean to his new marriage and my current relationship then?
So here’s the thing. Venus is the planet of beauty, love, partnership, and money, which rules our two favorite star signs: Taurus and Libra (yes I’m a proud Libra!). When it goes retrograde, all of the aspects above will turn inward first, before stationing forward.
You might have the chance to battle your inner demons, meet a few people from the past, or even taking some time to contemplate before making a life-changing decision.
Armand Diaz wrote in his Integral Astrology blog that the general theme of Venus retrograde is the recognition of our values. It can be reassessing how we value ourselves or being reacquainted with something or someone of value.
This week, Venus stations retrograde while she’s in the individualist Aries, joining the reign of Uranus and Mars opposing Jupiter retrograde in Libra. It is when spontaneity and impulsive acts can bring drama to your romance. One of you might be tempted to find a release by eyeing on a cute coworker. And with Mars fuelled the fire, it’ll be a hard time to concede after a dispute, which brings the trust issue back into the game.
From April 4th - 15th, Venus will once again return to the dreamy Pisces before it moves direct. With a square with Saturn retrograde in Sagittarius and a sextile with Mars in Taurus, it’ll be easier to kiss and makeup during this period. The chaos has been done. The stability and straightforwardness offered by Mars in Taurus, along with the self-awareness process by Saturn retrograde, will help to examine what went wrong and what we can do about it.
For couples, the Venus retrograde is the period for you to assess your deep-rooted problems and seek the win-win solution to strengthen your bond.
The Venus retrograde period generally doesn’t affect existing couples, so you don’t have to worry about it so much. It's usually the annoyance or existing issues that will arise to the surface, which requires teamwork by you two to make it through. Watch out for the Venus retrograde’s signature nostalgic memory, though. One of you may long for the one that got away, or suddenly reminiscing the beginning of your relationship. It’ll be a period where you long for a hopeless romantic story of your own. Anyway, just make sure no one’s hiding anything suspicious to keep the relationship intact.
Single and/or going to have a new relationship soon? If you can, you better hold off until Venus moves forward.
I asked Annabel Gat, the astrology writer for Broadly, about this and she said: “LOTS of people say Venus RX relationships can’t last, but I’ve seen otherwise. But certainly not an ideal time astrologically!” It’s true, though. Even those who have retrogrades on their natal chart (my boyfriend’s parents each has two on their charts!) can achieve great things despite the hindrance. They have to work twice as hard as the people with no retrogrades, but it doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
Couples who start on Venus retrograde, whether it’s a new relationship, engagement, or marriage, are more likely to be biased in their decision. Why?
It's because retrograde Venus seduces them with the fantasy of true love.
Everything will seem more magical when your new love is around. You won’t even see the red flag until you seal the deal. It’s an illusion that will happen to everyone, which spell can only break when Venus is moving direct again. But like I said, it doesn’t mean that the new relationship is going to fail. Once it moves forward, it will feel as if you’re waking up after a crazy Tinder date with makeup smearing all over your tired face, and a half-naked dude sleeping right beside you. You’ll wonder to yourself, “Where am I and what have I done?” But eventually, the choice is yours: whether you want to stay and have a brunch with him or go home for a morning walk of shame.
Venus retrograde is, in fact, the perfect time to shower yourself with self-love.
Instead of falling for exes who are not worth your time, you should use this period to take care of yourself and your heart too. Pamper yourself with a homemade bath bomb, try that new expensive lotion that you're always dying to have, or do a fun makeup tutorial when no one is around – as long as you don’t do something drastic, like planning for plastic surgery or changing your hairstyle.
All in all, don’t settle for someone so quick just because they’re cute to look at or because they float your boat with their charm. It should apply for ending a relationship too. Nothing good comes from a hasty decision. If you’re attached, remember that your relationship isn’t perfect, and the retrograde will bring the gunk out to the surface. But hey, consider this as a Family Feud quiz to see how far you two can win the game of life. As long as by the end of the retrograde you know how to value yourself, and you know who is worth your valuable time, you’re good. Stay safe, happy, and loved during Venus retrograde, everyone!