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Why I Chose Polyamory and How It Changes My Love Life

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What if I tell you that by changing your perception of love, you too will change your views about life and relationship?

I don't know if you remember this, but in my post a few months ago, I did open up about my revelation as a pansexual. But what I didn't tell you, was the events that lead up to that.

Around three months ago, I had the privilege to meet this wonderful man, who did not only teach me how to love differently, but he also becomes a significant figure in my life. He's my twin flame, my soul compadre, and eventually, my secondary partner.

Ever since I met him, my eyes are opened up to the possibility of polyamory. Unlike polygamy, which is probably much more familiar to a lot of Indonesians, polyamory is a practice of having more than one committed partner or multiple people to love.

I do have to admit, that when I first heard the sound of it, I'm very skeptical as to how it could work for me. I was in a monogamous 3,5 years relationship with my boyfriend, and I couldn't imagine sharing myself or him with anyone else. Just the thought of him flirting with someone else hurts me, let alone allowing him to have a second girlfriend. I already know how it's going to make me feel. I will feel jealous, insecure, inadequate, and pretty much every negative feeling that you'll feel when your partner decides to cheat on you.

But I was intrigued. Not because of the number of lovers that you can have, but because of the realization that my boyfriend would only ever be intimate with me the moment we decided to tie the knot. (yes we planned to) I've wanted him to explore his options before he even proposed to me so I could keep his eyes from wandering around once I can officially call him mine.

I guess that decision was partially half of a selfless thought and half of my insecurities talking.

And so, when I heard about this other option, I figured, "Why not?"

Little did I know that after my boyfriend and I decided to commit to this new set of relationship, the way I view love has significantly changed ever since.

Being polyamorous has opened up my ability to love more than one person without judgment, nor the feeling of ownership or control over others

I used to think that it isn't possible to share your heart and love equally, but apparently, we are just too accustomed to the normalcy of monogamy that we didn't even see this as another option. As humans, we are multifaceted. There is no way we can be satisfied in loving and receiving love from just one partner for our entire life. And as someone who has been in several long-term monogamous relationships, I can totally relate to this. I have to admit, that even though I've always loved one partner at a time, I couldn't help but to have a crush for another guy at least once in every relationship. (raise your hands if you know what I'm talking about 🙋🏻)

It forces me to be more honest about my feelings too; not just to others, but to myself as well.

When you're dating more than one person, you'll have to juggle the feeling, schedule, boundaries, and the do's and the don'ts of your partners and yourself. If any of you feel unhappy or uncomfortable with something, you'll have to communicate it as soon as possible, or it will affect your other relationship (or perhaps your partner's second or third relationship). Sounds complicated, eh? Haha.

Well, if you think trying to communicate with one partner is tricky, try getting two partners to be on the same page lol.

However, despite all the good stuff that I've written here, I'm not saying that polyamory is the best option for everyone. It's not a cure-all medicine for the lack of intimacy of your relationship. In fact, if your relationship is already ridden with lies and lack of communication, opening it up for polyamory will only make it worse. Instead of increasing intimacy, polyamory will force you to deal with the emotion or issues that you two have been sweeping under the rug.

Because the path of polyamory requires a certain level of emotional maturity to resolve your insecurities. It faces you with your deepest darkest fear about your relationship.

What is it that you're afraid of if your partner is attracted to another woman? Are you worried that she will take away your partner's attention? Are you concerned that your partner will love her more than you? Or does the image of them being intimate with one another can trigger a hidden trauma of yours?

These are the bitter truth that needs to be communicated at all times in a polyamorous relationship.

It sounds difficult, isn't it?

But I can tell you that once you get the hang of it, being polyamorous can be quite liberating. I have stopped limiting myself from the amount of love that I can give or receive to and from others. My objective of loving someone is no longer limited to whether I can have a relationship with them anymore. I can fall in love romantically with a guy that I will probably never get to see again until next year. But at the same time, I'm free to fall in love with a good friend of mine as well.

I don’t have to worry about putting all of my expectation to just one person and pausing my heart from loving someone because a committed relationship isn’t likely to happen between us.

It takes a lot of practice to stay in a constant state of love. But above all, it should start by being honest with yourself. Get this, the more I know how to deal with how I feel, the easier it is for me to focus on the feeling of love, not obsession or possessiveness. And honestly, we could never control anyone we love anyway because we never own them in the first place.

But if you ask me, "Do you want to be a poly forever?" My answer is, I don't know. As of now, I'm just enjoying this ride of romance in relationships. Maybe I'll go back to being monogamous at one point in my life. Or maybe never, who knows?

All I know for now is that the only thing I want is to fall in love and be in the present for it. Over and over again. Just giving my all, one lover at a time.


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Hello, I'm Canti!

I am a tarot reader and an eclectic witch living in Bali, providing online tarot reading and blessing service for the mindful soul-searchers. Contact me at www.foxglovetarot.com to book a private counseling session with me.

Why We Don’t Think We Deserve True Love

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Remember this quote from Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky? “We accept the love we think we deserve.” Yeah, that one.

I was scrolling through my Facebook feed when I saw someone posted the quote. Strangely, it happened in the same week while I was occupied with a lot of stories about my tarot reading clients who experience abuse in a relationship. And just like that, I snapped.

I have my own sad stories about unfair treatment in a relationship, so I know how it feels like to be on the losing end. But on that day, I realized that we are not always the victim here.

Here’s the cycle. You meet this very sweet and sensitive guy who seem to understand you with all your flaws and imperfections, but once you move in together, he feels insecure about everything you do. You spend your days trying to convince him that you will always be there for him and be his supportive girlfriend.

You give so much love, but you get so little in return. In fact, you won’t have enough love to love yourself because he’ll assume that if you love yourself, you don’t love him enough. Sounds familiar?

I’ve seen not only clients but good friends who are strong powerful females who fell into this trap over and over again. Most of the women who experience abuse or lack of power balance in their relationship either come from a dysfunctional family or they tend to value themselves lower.

They think that staying in a relationship with so much discomfort seems more comfortable than finding someone else who can give them the love they deserve. It’s because they’re not sure if anyone can love them more than their abusive partner.

They also think that love can change the way their partner treats them. It might happen in an alternate reality, but based on my personal experience and my clients’ stories, I’m sorry to tell you but, it’s pretty unlikely.

Because it’s bullshit. I’m sorry if I have to kick your ass this way because I know that you deserve so much more.

Look at yourself again in the mirror and tell me what you see. Do you see a confident, beautiful woman that deserves someone who can love her for being who she is? I do.

You don’t deserve bullies who continuously lower your self-worth just to make themselves feel good.

How we allow our partner to treat ourselves is the reflection of how we think we deserve to be treated. If we don’t value ourselves enough, we are more likely to attract the needy partner who dislikes the idea of us being who we are. Remember, no one can give you better love than yourself.

The right love will make you feel comfortable being yourself. The right person will encourage you to pursue your hobby, the future you want, even if it means you have to sacrifice comfort in your relationship (hello, long distance relationship!). You’ll know if you’re in the right relationship for you if you feel comfortable in speaking out your opinion without worrying about being the bad guy here because a great relationship contains nothing but love and respect for each other.

So give yourself some loving before you plea for someone else’s love. Oh and, please know that you should find love from someone that is so amazing, rather than sticking to the second best, because you totally deserve it.

 

*I originally published this article in Thought Catalog.

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What will happen to your love life during Venus Retrograde March - April 2017

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Yesterday marks the beginning of Venus Retrograde until April, 15th 2017. It’s also the date when my ex is getting married. Uh oh.

Ever since I saw his invitation, I could only think of one thing: What will happen if someone gets married on Venus Retrograde? I’m sure it’s not going to be the main thing that determines the course of their marriage, but I hope everything is going to work between them. I love my ex like a brother, so I wish he gets the happy ending that he deserves.

It is when I start to freak out.

What will it mean to his new marriage and my current relationship then?

So here’s the thing. Venus is the planet of beauty, love, partnership, and money, which rules our two favorite star signs: Taurus and Libra (yes I’m a proud Libra!). When it goes retrograde, all of the aspects above will turn inward first, before stationing forward.

You might have the chance to battle your inner demons, meet a few people from the past, or even taking some time to contemplate before making a life-changing decision.

Armand Diaz wrote in his Integral Astrology blog that the general theme of Venus retrograde is the recognition of our values. It can be reassessing how we value ourselves or being reacquainted with something or someone of value.

This week, Venus stations retrograde while she’s in the individualist Aries, joining the reign of Uranus and Mars opposing Jupiter retrograde in Libra. It is when spontaneity and impulsive acts can bring drama to your romance. One of you might be tempted to find a release by eyeing on a cute coworker. And with Mars fuelled the fire, it’ll be a hard time to concede after a dispute, which brings the trust issue back into the game. 

From April 4th - 15th, Venus will once again return to the dreamy Pisces before it moves direct. With a square with Saturn retrograde in Sagittarius and a sextile with Mars in Taurus, it’ll be easier to kiss and makeup during this period. The chaos has been done. The stability and straightforwardness offered by Mars in Taurus, along with the self-awareness process by Saturn retrograde, will help to examine what went wrong and what we can do about it.

For couples, the Venus retrograde is the period for you to assess your deep-rooted problems and seek the win-win solution to strengthen your bond.

The Venus retrograde period generally doesn’t affect existing couples, so you don’t have to worry about it so much. It's usually the annoyance or existing issues that will arise to the surface, which requires teamwork by you two to make it through. Watch out for the Venus retrograde’s signature nostalgic memory, though. One of you may long for the one that got away, or suddenly reminiscing the beginning of your relationship. It’ll be a period where you long for a hopeless romantic story of your own. Anyway, just make sure no one’s hiding anything suspicious to keep the relationship intact.

Single and/or going to have a new relationship soon? If you can, you better hold off until Venus moves forward.

I asked Annabel Gat, the astrology writer for Broadly, about this and she said: “LOTS of people say Venus RX relationships can’t last, but I’ve seen otherwise. But certainly not an ideal time astrologically!” It’s true, though. Even those who have retrogrades on their natal chart (my boyfriend’s parents each has two on their charts!) can achieve great things despite the hindrance. They have to work twice as hard as the people with no retrogrades, but it doesn’t mean it’s impossible. 

Couples who start on Venus retrograde, whether it’s a new relationship, engagement, or marriage, are more likely to be biased in their decision. Why?

It's because retrograde Venus seduces them with the fantasy of true love.

Everything will seem more magical when your new love is around. You won’t even see the red flag until you seal the deal. It’s an illusion that will happen to everyone, which spell can only break when Venus is moving direct again. But like I said, it doesn’t mean that the new relationship is going to fail. Once it moves forward, it will feel as if you’re waking up after a crazy Tinder date with makeup smearing all over your tired face, and a half-naked dude sleeping right beside you. You’ll wonder to yourself, “Where am I and what have I done?” But eventually, the choice is yours: whether you want to stay and have a brunch with him or go home for a morning walk of shame.

Venus retrograde is, in fact, the perfect time to shower yourself with self-love.

Instead of falling for exes who are not worth your time, you should use this period to take care of yourself and your heart too. Pamper yourself with a homemade bath bomb, try that new expensive lotion that you're always dying to have, or do a fun makeup tutorial when no one is around – as long as you don’t do something drastic, like planning for plastic surgery or changing your hairstyle.

All in all, don’t settle for someone so quick just because they’re cute to look at or because they float your boat with their charm. It should apply for ending a relationship too. Nothing good comes from a hasty decision. If you’re attached, remember that your relationship isn’t perfect, and the retrograde will bring the gunk out to the surface. But hey, consider this as a Family Feud quiz to see how far you two can win the game of life. As long as by the end of the retrograde you know how to value yourself, and you know who is worth your valuable time, you’re good. Stay safe, happy, and loved during Venus retrograde, everyone! 


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I am a tarot reader and an eclectic witch living in Bali, providing online tarot reading and blessing service for the mindful soul-searchers. Contact me at www.foxglovetarot.com to book a private counseling session with me.

Love Is Not The Same In Your Twenties (And That’s A Good Thing)

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When I was in my early teen, I thought an adult relationship is something that comes straight out of the Titanic movie. It would be a relationship that involves two lovers, who solemnly sworn to love each other with utmost respect and trust. They would hold hands only in private, not in public because PDA is for teens. They don’t do baby talk, they drink wine in fancy wine glasses, and they would discuss politics instead of memes. I observed how the adults in my family exhibited their deep affection for each other, and I was hopeful that one day I get to be as mature as them.

But here I am, in my mid-twenties, and I could say that my childhood fairy tale is fairly ruined. I’ve been through different types of relationships, and nothing fits exactly to what I had dreamed about.

My favorite dates have always involved a casual wine drinking session by the park while gulping the entire cheaply designed bottle and filling our drunken face with Pringles. If we have no place to fool around, we will sit by the park, casually biting each other’s lips for everyone to see.

Our conversation’s highlights are dog memes and animal videos because business and politics seem to stand beyond our callow interest. It seems as if a few years have passed, but our way of courting is stuck in our teenage years.

But sometimes, it feels good to stay juvenile. I can’t imagine how sterile my relationship would be if I can’t make poop jokes with my significant other. I want someone to make love with, but I wish he would also enjoy a belly high-five with me. We would finish each other’s sentence, and we wouldn’t mind doing baby talk with our friends around.

In the end, love isn’t about how you display it in front of others. It’s about what suits your fancy. If the adult way doesn’t work for you, it’s okay to do your own thing. Love is non-judgmental. It’s pure, regardless of the gross couple nickname you two give to each other. It is not their place to judge us, nor it’s our right to judge other couples around us.

So fall in love, make a fool out of yourself, and don’t be afraid to stay young!

*I originally published this article in Thought Catalog.

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this week in AstroFox: April 4th - 10th 2016

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This week’s chart brings to focus how our past actions will eventually come back and catch our tongue. Use this opportunity to pay attention and be mindful of what you say or do. But don’t forget to take a chance on love while you can!

Saturn in Retrogade
Saturn is in retrogade all week until August 13th, which gives us a reality check to be responsible in certain aspects according to which house the Saturn is located. If the Saturn is located in your 7th House and you haven’t paid much attention to someone you love, Saturn will ensure we give enough attention through hardships or relationship fallouts. Saturn is a karmic planet. Its focus revolves around responsibility, self-discipline, and respect. We will be tested to take extra responsibility during this period. It may be hard and frustrating at times, but I can assure you that the lesson will be valuable.

Mercury to Taurus and Venus to Aries
This Wednesday onwards, expect the communication flow between you and your peers or colleagues to be slow, careful, but logical, while your love life takes a daring turn when Mercury and Venus makes their transit concurrently. Taurus is a stubborn and decisive sign but they take such long process to get to their point as everything needs to be concise and aligned with their message. On the other hand, with Venus heading towards Aries this Wednesday, the vibe will help you to go bold, up-front, and impulsive with your feelings. Aries people don’t have time to sit and wait. They do what their heart tells them and they say what they think. Get ready to catch their adventurous energy this Wednesday!

 

Aries ♈️

General
Try to move faster than the light, Aries! This week, several opportunities are heading your way but you seem to be distracted to choose the one that suits your needs. There’s no time to think as the Sun is moving closer towards Uranus, the planet of luck for career and creativity. The Sun will be in 0 degrees of Uranus this Sunday so take your chance before it moves past right before your eyes!

Career - Money - Health
This week you are going to be showered with career opportunities as a reward for your relentless effort. You can always pat yourself in the back later, because right now you need to focus on your health more. Saturn in Conjunction with Mars and trine with both Sun and Uranus shows your passion for work along with the luck that comes with it. However, the square with Jupiter in your 6th House indicates health problem that you need to pay attention to. Work hard, but don’t forget to rest hard!

Love (Single)
With the Sun in your 1st House, you still have that sun shining confidence until it shifts to Taurus. The trine with Saturn in your 9th House gives you the benefit of being picky in making new contacts. Watch out for some people who are trying to take advantage of you.

Love (In A Relationship)
Venus is heading towards Aries this Wednesday, just in time to be in conjunction with the Moon in your 12th House. This makes Wednesday the perfect day to have a date night at home to talk about where this relationship is going. You may want to discuss about how things are going to pan out in the next few months.

 

Taurus ♉️

General
This week, most Taureans are not in the mood to be involved in conflict and disagreements. With Venus shifts to your 12th House to be with your Sun and Moon this Thursday, your focus veers to what you could have done better to accommodate your needs. This is the time to treat yourself with respect and love. Conflicts would not help you in finding that missing piece of your soul, so don’t waste too much time meddling in it.

Career - Money - Health
If it’s too good to be true, then it’s probably not a good idea to pursue it. With Saturn in retrograde in your 8th House, it’s time for you to be careful in making any decisions that involves another person or business entity in your work. Use this Wednesday’s opportunity when Mercury arrives in your 1st House. You need all the luck in communicating your thoughts to be able to see the light. It’s really tough to see behind all those glitters, I know, but it’s worth a try.

Love (Single)
This week, take some time for yourself to be completely in love. To love and be in love does not negate who you are as an individual. Sometimes it completes you, like how milk complements your coffee. With Sun in your 12th House while in square with Pluto in 9th House, falling in love seems like a bad and scary idea at times. But hey, so does learning to drive a car and sipping your first glass of beer right?

Love (In A Relationship)
Everything you throw to the Universe, will get back to you at some point in your life. Sometimes they knock on your door gently, sometimes they just tear the whole wall down. Venus is moving towards to your 12th House this Wednesday, so this week is one of those days where it’s very important for you to pay attention to how you treat your partner. Be sensitive and listen to them when they need you the most, or else.

 

Gemini ♊️

General
Staying motivated in pursuing your wish/dream is something that you should do despite the fact that things go wrong once in a while. There’s no room for disappointment this week as you need to shift your focus immediately to something more important. Mercury in conjunct with Moon on Friday and Saturday may bring some melancholic mood, but don’t worry, Moon’s trine with Jupiter and Pluto will snap you back into reality as quick as a flash.

Career - Money - Health
Although Gemini is known for its strength in multitasking, there’s no time for you to juggle too many things at once because this week leaves you exhausted. Saturn in Retrogade in your 7th House while in square with Jupiter in 4th House compels you to pay attention to your work life balance. Recharge yourself by coming home to your loved ones to keep you focused.

Love (Single)
You’re almost there, you just need a little bit more effort before you seal the deal. They have reciprocated to your feelings, so it won’t take long to finally be in their arms. For those who haven’t found anyone, weekend will be a great point to start your search. The Sun is moving towards 0 degree with Uranus in your 11th House, so look around in your circle of friends for a good luck in love.

Love (In A Relationship)
You got a good thing going in your relationship this week. Without a doubt, your attention to little things is finally paid off. With Mars and Saturn in your 7th House, you know exactly what ticks your partner, and you try to avoid doing it as much as possible. Good call!

 

Cancer ♋️

General
As a typical Cancer, it’s not enough for you to worry about yourself, you always carry the world’s problem on your shoulder as well. The Universe will ensure you get the message this week. The Moon will be in square with Saturn in retrograde on Tuesday to remind you of how important you are. Your health (or you in general) is much more important than their problem, so try not to over think what others are going through. Simply put, their problem is not (always) your problem.

Career - Money - Health
With your career going uphill this week, so do the obstacles that are coming your way. Saturn is in retrograde in your 6th House, so expect a very ‘enlightening’ talk with your boss about how you can step up the quality of your work for the company. Not to mention giving up more of your personal time for late night shifts. Use the energy of Saturn’s current neighbour, Mars, to negotiate with your superior.

Love (Single)
You can’t accomplish anything without putting much effort. Right now, everything is going smooth, but you found yourself lost in the process already. No wonder, the Sun is in square with Pluto in your 7th House, so moving further beyond this point is a little bit tough. All you have to do is arrange a nice dinner with a seemingly effortless smooth talk (which isn’t easy, I know).

Love (In A Relationship)
This week, your relationship requires a little bit more understanding about each other. With Venus shifting to your 10th House and Pluto sitting in your 7th House, it’s unlikely for you to be able to understand your partner’s feelings. It seems disconnected at times, but it’s not the end of the world. The only way you can get through this is by communicating with them openly. 

 

Leo ♌️

General
Leos are well known for their big ego, so it’s not surprising that this week you feel the urge to feed your ego by basking in everyone’s attention. The Sun is in your 9th House, so small imperfections will irk you, but for reasonable reasons. Be careful of the way you deliver suggestions, because you’re not the only one with strong opinion. Your attitude, although meant well, may rub some people the wrong way. 

Career - Money - Health
Going strong, Leos! Career won’t be a problem for you as the Saturn sits in your 5th House while in trine with both Sun and Uranus this week. You manage to find the balance between work and play, thus, thinking out of the box becomes natural for you. Your health will cooperate with you as Mercury shifts to your 10th House this Wednesday. Keep it up!

Love (Single)
Not a single women or men can resist your charm this week. You may not be the best of everything but your confidence and eloquent manner shines through and you start to get noticed. You may be tempted to use this opportunity to break some hearts, but be careful because retrograde Saturn in your 5th House will make sure you don’t cross that line.

Love (In A Relationship)
Jealousy is a double edged sword. It can either strengthen your relationship or break it. In this case, if you feel jealous or possessive of your loved ones, take it as your instinct coming to play. You don’t want to lose them, which is completely understandable. As long as you don’t tighten your grip and leave them suffocated, this possessive traits of yours will not be of a problem for now.

 

Virgo ♍️

General
Not watering your crops won’t make them grow on their own, it will only make them wither and die. It means, you won’t get what you want unless you do something about it. Jupiter has been positioned in your 1st House, so it’s safe to say that your luck won’t run out so soon. However, due to the square aspect with Sagittarius on your 4th House, you may be unable to leave your comfort zone to look for new opportunities. Be brave and bold, or the only one who will ruin your chance is yourself. 

Career - Money - Health
Your career or work life is moving slow but steady as Saturn is in retrograde in your 4th House. You start gaining recognition among your small circle and you’re happy with what you achieve right now. Cherish this moment because it’s highly unusual for Virgos to be content with simple joy (yes, I’m a Virgo Ascendant hence why this sounds about right).

Love (Single)
Pluto in your 5th House indicates that love is not your first priority because you are more concern with how you can finally be comfortable with yourself. With Pluto in square with Sun and Uranus, it feels as if you lost your confident self throughout this week. But don’t worry, once you find the hook, you will be out there and about in no time.

Love (In A Relationship)
You don’t always have to go through things alone when you have someone who loves you by your side. With Neptune and Venus situated right at the opposite of Jupiter in your 1st House, it may be a bit difficult for you to share things with your loved ones right now. But trust me, they will still be your biggest supporter no matter what. Don’t worry be happy, Virgos!

 

Libra ♎️

General
Things are fluctuating and relatively unstable for you this week, but you seem to find the silver lining in every misfortune you see. Your ability to see the bigger picture makes you realise how everything is interconnected and how you are just a tiny pawn in a bigger scheme. During this Saturn retrograde, see if you can be surrounded by truth tellers as it will help you to release the knots in your Throat Chakra.

Career - Money - Health
The prospect of your career is connected to the people you meet and how fast you can catch the opportunity. Don’t waste your time making connection with people who will not be any useful in helping you grow. At the same time, do not make new enemies. You don’t need to have someone trying to pull you down when you’re busy climbing the mountain.

Love (Single)
The more you continue to be this happy, the more hearts you’ll break! Don’t worry about not making connection you want when you’re actually making enough connection with everyone. The good news is, you have a lot of options to go with this week. But the bad news is, you can’t really decide which one. So be quick and make it count!

Love (In A Relationship)
With both of you trying to make things work in other aspects, less energy is channeled into keeping the sparks alive. Venus will arrive in your 7th House this Wednesday to help you get the romance back in the bedroom, so use that opportunity to be comfortable in each other’s arms again.

 

Scorpio ♏️

General
Without the stability to sustain your life, you seem to be out of balance lately. Your respective planet, Pluto, is in square with Sun and Uranus in your 6th House this week, demonstrating how this instability is affecting your self-confidence and your creativity. You need to find some alone time to figure out your purpose. Sometimes the best answer comes in silence.

Career - Money - Health
With Saturn in retrograde on your 2nd House, you will be given a lot of opportunity to grow in your money-making career. But this comes with a catch. The money that you make may have to be sacrificed for your own happiness, or for the happiness of others. Remember, money will not bring you happiness unless you choose so. Therefore, do what’s right according to your heart.

Love (Single)
Single Scorpios would not last a chance until you find the courage to speak up your mind. As soon as Venus leaves your 5th House this Wednesday, you immediately go back to hermit mode. Find the balance between your extrovert and introvert traits before you decide to go on dates and you’ll do great.

Love (In A Relationship)
Although there’s a certain level of comfort between you and your partner, seems that this week would not be the best time to start an argument as both of you are in need of support. Thankfully the smart and witty Mercury is coming to the rescue this Wednesday to help you fix this issue. Expect a spontaneous yet heartwarming moment this Saturday when the Moon arrives in your 7th House.

 

Sagittarius ♐️

General
Not a single soul can stop you from chasing your dreams as long as Mars and retrograde Saturn are positioned in your 1st House. It’s a great initiative but be mindful of the jealous eyes. Don’t flaunt your luck everywhere you go and certainly don’t drive yourself too fast or you’ll hit the door. You can always go steady and calculate your steps. It can save you a lot of pain in the long run.

Career - Money - Health
Career may be your main motive this week, but do not underestimate the power of listening. With Saturn in trine with Sun and Uranus, it’s very easy to dismiss other’s opinion that may be beneficial for you because as an independent Sagittarius you have always survived alone anyway. But trust me, this time it’s best to take their suggestion into consideration.

Love (Single)
The Sun and Venus in your 5th House help you to get a little bit of extra confidence to take major bold steps on your love pursuit. You’re fine on your own and you are enjoying this pursuit as it goes. However, don’t forget that it always takes two to tango. What’s best for you may not be the best for your crush, so, practice a lot of compromising to keep them in your arms.

Love (In A Relationship)
Find solace in your loved one as you brace yourself for a struggle to come. They may be unable to give you the full physical support that you need, but their words, love, and kindness, are strong enough to get you back on your feet.

 

Capricorn ♑️

General
To find the best possible solution to your problem requires some minor adjustments on your side. With Pluto in your 1st House and Saturn in retrogade in your 12th House, it won’t take long until you see the bigger picture to find the answer. Remember, you can always choose a different path whenever your heart tells you to.

Career - Money - Health
You can’t always understand what your colleagues are trying to say, but you always try to make up for it. Saturn is in square with Jupiter in the 9th House, so it’s possible that everything is just a matter of miscommunication. You have the talents, just not enough time to decode everything. Don’t worry, everyone always has something to learn from their mistakes.

Love (Single)
Chances are called ‘chances’ because they don’t happen everyday. This Wednesday, don’t miss the arrival of Mercury in your 5th House to give you the charm and wit to help you prevail. After that, things will go smooth sailing on your side so use this opportunity to finally get things going.

Love (In A Relationship)
New things are unfolding and you are excited to find out what’s next. But be careful of your steps as your curiosity may cause you to step on a bear trap as we speak. Use this opportunity to stop assuming and find the truth directly from them instead.

 

Aquarius ♒️

General
This week brings into focus a lot of questions about yourself, particularly about spirituality and how you plays a part as a microcosm in this Universe. Pluto is in your 12th House while in square with Sun and your respective planet, Uranus, so no wonder if you feel a little bit lost and confused. However, the answer that you’re looking for has always been within yourself. All you need to do is to sit still and listen to your soul.

Career - Money - Health
Although you’re more interested in doing things your way, your luck for career this week lies on collaboration or partnership with your colleagues / peers in your network. Saturn in retrograde is sitting in your 11th House, which explains why it will be tougher to shine on your own. See if you can appreciate their help by asking them out for dinner or drinks. It’s social time!

Love (Single)     
For a change, try to find your love within your close circle of friends. The Sun might be located in your 3rd House, but its square with Pluto seems to be holding things back in this futile attempt. Look at the bright side, you don’t have to get out of your comfort zone to flirt with someone at least, right?

Love (In A Relationship)
Some things are easier said than done. For you, no time should be wasted to try harder because you have done your best. For them, your initial effort itself is not enough and there’s always room for improvement. This week, see if you can find the right balance between your expectation and theirs by talking things through.

 

Pisces

General
This is the right time for you to put your intuitive ability into use! Your respective planet, Neptune is in your 1st House, so it’s easy to understand why things will work out better for you if your intuition comes into play. It may not work with everyone though, as the location of your Neptune is opposite Jupiter, the planet of knowledge, in your 7th House. But don’t worry, your intuition will lead you to be with the right people throughout your journey.

Career - Money - Health
Work life balance is something you’ve been yearning for, but sadly there’s not enough time for it right now. The retrogade Saturn stays in your 10th House so career seems to be doing well for you. It gave you the worldly material that you need, but it seems to have kept you unnecessary busy. Take short breaks when you need to and keep yourself hydrated.

Love (Single)
To keep things afloat between you and your crush, there needs to be a deeper understanding about how each other feels. Both of you need to be able to be each other’s strength when needed. This will help to strengthen your bond and passion in the long run.

Love (In A Relationship)
With Jupiter in your 7th House and Venus in your 1st House, things may shake a bit through conflict to open another layer of your relationship. Minor disagreements are one of the few. I see that there’s nothing major that can change how you feel about them. The best thing you can do is to patch that wound with love and kisses and keep your Satur-date night on.


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